Before you get into some crazy fun, there are some things you should take note.
(1) Discuss with your partner
It is best to talk about what you are going to do ahead of the time and be sure that it turns you both on. Discuss with your partner to try the different roles and the different kinds of kinky sex like silks, feathers, spanking, etc. You do not have to tell him or her exactly what you are planning. In fact, sometimes surprises are fun. Of course, you should not do anything your partner hates, either.
(2) Plan ahead
For a start, try to keep things simple. You do not need to spend a lot of money. In the beginning, thick yarn is just as good as ropes or chains. Keep a scissors handy so that you can cut the yarn quickly instead of trying to undo stuck knots. Try out your equipment ahead of time. Make sure it can be easily located when in need. If you are trying on these handcuffs, make sure you know where the key is.
(3) Play safe
Never cross the line into real pain or hurt. Be sure to agree on a code that mean ‘stop’. If your scene involves gagging your partner, establish another way that the person can say ‘enough’. One way to approach this is to get the gagged partner to hold on a bell or some other object, and drop it if things get to be too much. Never leave a bound or gagged person alone, and never block a person’s breathing passage.
You should not try anything weird with someone you don’t know, or just meet at the pub. This is because bondage sex involves some form of surrender which requires the submission partner to be in a very vulnerable state. Never indulge in sadomasochistic or bondage sex play when you are angry with each other or when your relationship is having other problems which could run over into your erotic games.
Here are some abnormal but sexy things you can try on.
(1) Get some luxury sex toys ready
You can easily get some spanking high end sex toys inexpensively from a large number of sources. Wooden spoons, paint stirrers and rubber or plastic ice scrapers of the kind you use to clear ice from a windshield all make excellent tools.
Next time when you visit a sex toys online store, you can look for some remote-controlled luxury vibrators and butt plugs. You can attach a remote-controlled toy on your partner and then you go out to dinner with friends. During the evening, your friends can swap control of the remote controller device, keeping your partner guessing who is playing with the remote controller.
You can get her to wear a dildo vaginally throughout the day even when she sleeps, or the receiving partner get to wear an anal plug as he or she does errands or housework. This makes it impossible for the receiving partner to ignore the penetration, whatever else he or she is doing. This in turn can keep the receiving partner to keep thinking about and consistently crave for sexual stimulation.
(2) Erotic games
This can be by means of creating a punishment box. Inside this box is a set of cards, each of which has an erotic punishment written on it. If the receiving partner ‘misbehaves’, he or she has to draw out a punishment card at random from the box. Or, you can get your partner to create the ‘punishment’ cards on his/her own preferably when he/she is aroused because people who are aroused will think of devious things that they will not dream of in a normal state of mind.
Of course, the contents of the punishment box will depend on the person involved. Some basic punishments may include not allowing him/her to have an orgasm for the next 2 days, to get spanked or to wear clothespins on his or her nipples for half an hour.
(3) Looking into fetish
People who have a particular sexual fixation fall under the category of a fetish enthusiast. The object of sexual fixation can be hands, feet, fingernails, lipstick, women’s lingerie, footwear, glasses, braids, pony-tails, pig-tails etc. Put on a pair of ladies underwear or cross dress if you are a guy or get her to ‘shower’ you with her ‘wet love’ if you are game for it.
These are only a few but there are tons of things you can try. The good thing is, when comes to sex, women love to try new things. If she is apprehensive, take the time to discuss her concerns and be willing to slow down. All you need is communication and patience. This is the path to good sex.