What do you do when your sex life becomes boring? Does it occur that when you want to have sex, either she tells you she has a headache or she says she is very tired? When your love life gets stale, what should you do? If you truly value your relationship with your partner/lover, read on to avoid these lovemaking mistakes so that you can get her back sexually and give her what she wants.
(1) You look less confident and assertive
A man who is tentative or shy about what he wants in the bedroom can come across as less masculine in the eyes of the woman he is in bed with. Sometimes it is the desire to be good or nice in bed that actually causes a guy to be very average or below average in terms of what a woman really wants from her sexual partner. If you have been with a woman long enough to know her body language and emotions, nothing kills the mood like a formal request to proceed.
A good lover knows how to let her know he is in the mood and can turn her on without being too aggressive. Something as simple as an intense look or a playful touch is a much better way of going about it. You can also show some masculine strength and dominance in a gentle way. When going down on her, try holding her wrists. Put your hand on the center of her chest and hold her firmly down on the bed. Touch her like you own her. Do not be afraid to push her against the wall and kiss her deeply when you feel that she is being sexy.
(2) Trying to make love when she is tired or not in the mood
To get her back in the mood, pamper her with a massage. If you want to try something sexy, a foot massage with a warming gel can do wonders, especially if you concentrate on the pad of her toes and the webbing in between, which are linked to her nether zones. If she is relaxed, she is more likely to feel sexy.
Deep passionate kisses are one of the greatest ‘turn-ons’ for most women. Kissing is your entrance exam for the rest of her body. You look into her eyes and touch her face when you kiss her, which can really get her aroused. You spend time licking, kissing or gently nibbling her top lip and then do the same to the lower lip. Do give some attention on the area between her throat and chin. The skin will be thinner where the body flexes, so the nerves and blood vessels are close to the surface. Kissing her at this area will trigger an emotional response and make her wet. Slowly build up her arousal with your sensual kisses.
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(3) You are just plain lazy
You get too comfortable sticking with your usual ways of doing things. As a result of your obsession with orderliness, she can read you easily like the cover of a book, so much so that instead of moaning in bed she is yawning away.
To add fun to your love life, it helps that you need to ‘mess things’ up a bit, be less predictable, a bit naughty or cheeky at times to keep her wondering and at times make her can’t help giggling over your ‘performances’. Most women will not admit this but they prefer their men to misbehave a bit at times. This is why you hear about this saying about women falling for ‘bad guys’ and ‘nice guys’ are losers in their love lives. The key is to try to do new things in your love life that you both enjoy.
Being less predictable also needs you to do something extra to pleasantly surprise and please her at times. You will come across to her as a very caring and romantic lover. Surprise her with your thoughtfulness by making a bowl of popcorn when she is watching her favorite TV show. Write her a song, poem or love-you note to make her feel really special. Prepare a romantic dinner for two, play some mood music and seduce her.
(4) You neglect the emotional aspects of sex
You are superstitious (blind faith) that your sexual techniques can work miracles on her. You are proud of your over 6 inches long lovemaking tool down there, or if you are not, you look for ways and means to enlarge or lengthen it. In other words, you are too obsessed with the mechanical aspects of sex.
Just remember this – every man is the same when he is naked, but what differentiate you from other guys in her eyes is how you relate to her and how much you tune in to her emotional needs. To most women, sex without passion is quite dull and no woman wants to get this feeling that she is not being treated well.
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