Ever wonder what “objections” she has to sex? Have you ever come across the situation that you can chat for hours, days and even weeks or months and still not end up under the blanket with each other?
There are 3 common obstacles women place between her and you. In this article, we will discuss all 3 of them and the easy ways to overcome them.
Number One Obstacle: She is not “turned on” enough
You will usually hear her saying things like:” I am tired, I better go home” or “Maybe we should slow down”.
If you slow down just another 10 minutes, you can get what you want. Because that is the only and easiest way to turn her on: Just go easy and take your own sweet time. Slowly build up the mood.
The only other rule about turning her on sexually is to be “smooth” which means building up the “heat” gradually when you get intimate with her. Do not go from touching her hand to tonguing her down.
Instead, touch her arm, touch her waist, touch her face, start kissing and then gradually get more and more intimate. In this way you are building up the sexual tension and slowly bringing her into the mood. By the time she is turned on, she will reach the point of no return and start begging for sex.
Number Two Obstacle: She does not feel comfortable at this place
Maybe she does not feel there is enough of privacy at her place. Maybe she does not like the feeling of having sex with you in a cheap hotel as if she is a whore. So, how about convincing her to have a tryst in the back seat of your car or in one of the compartments of those big circling wheel which you can find in a lot of theme parks?
A way to get over this obstacle is by means of a technique call “mind molding”. A well-known Brazilian soccer player, Ronaldinho uses this technique to help him score goals. Before the actual soccer match, he will “picture” himself about how he will go about trying to get the ball to the goal post and the joy he will get when he scores goal.
What you can do is to use a technique called “molding”. It is a sort of training the mind to “visualize” the things which you are aiming for to happen to cultivate positive thoughts in the mind.
Here are the easy steps:
- Figure out how you want her to act. For example, you may want her to be an adventurous woman who lives in the moment.
- Tell her a story about someone you admire who did something adventurous, or lived in the moment. Get her to “picture” herself doing something unusual and deriving greater satisfaction over this.
- Tell her why you admire this person is because she is adventurous and live in the moment.
Gradually and with some encouragement, she will slowly evolve into the type of girl you want her to be. It is the same kind of psychology exercise; a great coach uses to motivate his players to perform their best.
Number Three Obstacle: She gets bored with sex
You are treating sex as if you are taking your car for a regular petrol/gasoline refill activity. You see her as if she is a car that you routinely schedule to drive to the petrol station for refill. Your sex with her becomes predictable closely following a time-table and repeating the same motion over and over again and gradually she becomes less enthusiastic in sex.
What can you do here is t break out of the usual “mold” of activity?
To break out of this rut, you have to be spontaneous. Make love with her at the time she least expects. If you regularly have sex at night, you can sometimes change this to morning or afternoon. You can also try out a new sex position or use quality sex toys such as Lelo vibrators. If you are not the aggressive guy when comes to sex, change your behavior. Take charge to seduce her, initiate foreplay, position her body in the way you like. If you are the aggressive type, you can turn her on by way of actions/talking and get her to take the initiative.
A more important thing to take note is that all forms of sexual stimulation start from the brain. If her overall feeling when she is with you is no good, all the stimulation will not work. At all times, you need to make her feel good and desirable. She is a human after all, not a sex object or sex machine that merely responds mechanically to your stimulus! Compliment her about looks, dressings, surprise her with small gifts, be romantic and at times arrange dates at her favorite restaurant or any activity she enjoys, relief her stress with some massage or doing some chores to lighten her burden and be just a quiet and attentive listener when she is down in her mood.
To recap on how to overcome the obstacles to sex:
- You need to be patient to spend extra time to stimulate her.
- Using mental tactics to cultivate as well as nurture and “shape” her thoughts.
- Break your sex routine.