Get her into a light and happy mood before you get intimate with her. The best way to do is to start outside the bedroom because women tend to take a bit longer than men to get into the mood.
A great way to get her to ease up is to plan a night out with your girl and her friends and their boyfriends and head to a night spot where booze and loud music abound. Encourage them to dance together and have fun. The pumping music and the free flow of alcohol will gradually let her to lower down her defenses and get wild. On reaching home, you keep the vibe going with your girl. You will be surprised to see how crazy she can be in private.
If your girl is not the party-type, how about cooking her a meal? To a woman, the sight of a man cooking competently is its own aphrodisiac. Offer her a glass of wine. As the evening progresses, both of you will begin to lower your guards. It is at this point that things should take a sexual turn. While she is helping you to clean up after the meal, you slide up behind her, plant kisses on her neck and cultivate the ultimate in anticipation.
If you can’t cook, you can treat her to a dinner in her favorite eating outlet. You set up a hot dinner date. Buy her a sexy outfit and ask her to wear it when she is having dinner with you. When she dresses sexy, she is likely to feel sexy. She doesn’t need to dress like Lady Gaga, probably just a short black dress and lacy lingerie will do, or anything that is sexy with good taste.
You can get each other in the mood by watching porn together or by reading some stimulating erotic fiction. Even if she is not much into watching porn, she may be opened to add in a video or two. You can also find quality sexy stories available all over the Internet and in bookstores.
Playing sexual broad games is also a great way to help both of you to get started before getting dirtier in bed together. You can find these kinds of games online and in sex toys online stores. These are usually aimed at couples that want to add some excitement to their love life. These games should give you some ideas to heat up the bedroom temperature. You can also use your imagination to create your own game together with her at home. The idea is to get both of you to open up and start trying things out. If all else fails, you can always fall back on the classic strip poker or the old standard of Truth or Dare.
To spice things up, you can show her your artistic side by getting temporary tattoos, body paints and crayons which you can apply directly on you and her body. The beauty of this activity is that both of you need to shed some clothes and touch each other to do it. It is a unique way to get things started with both of you almost naked running your hands up and down on each other’s body and applying your own brand of creative art.
As you progress further into the night, you can pique her interest by joining her in the shower or bath. Lather her up and linger over her curves, tracing patterns along her skin and touching her all over. After the shower is over, offer to massage her by using her favorite lotion to get her relaxed into your touch as you gradually shift your movements into sensual caresses. She will be begging more for it after all that pampering.